———————————————————— Of all the things that clients (especially men) ask me to help them with, the most common query involves assistance with writing introductory emails.
After all, most people’s profiles don’t exactly give you a ton of material to work with, do they? Ask yourself if what you’re writing sounds completely original.
Frankly, I suggest that you save your time, money and aggravation and just avoid these personals.
However, if you're hell-bent on trying them you want to do something like this: First, create a pseudo-custom reply that uses something from her ad.
It may be your crowning achievement and could have taken you hours to write and years to perfect, but consider why you are still using a personal ad response you wrote years ago. If you want to have something already written that says your basics that's fine, but the bulk of your e-mail should be original and written for THAT girl. The 4th is a better attempt except there is no personality.
Something that will separate my email from the other guys who send her emails and something that will get a response consistently. This is for many reasons including: 1) Many women get 200, 300 or even 1,000 responses each!
Generally speaking, an average straight man will have to send 25 messages to women his own age procure one response, while the average straight woman will have to send 5 messages.
That's fascinating, and also could be an explanation — men sending a lot more messages than women — for the disparity.
And one thing that should be worrisome for straight men is the size of their disadvantage in the market.
Josh Fischer is the Director of Product Insights at What does this mean?